A free self-identification checklist for women who suspect there’s a different explanation for their own experience.
Not a diagnostic tool. Not a test you can pass or fail. Just a mirror.
Most descriptions of ADHD, autism, and giftedness were written with someone else in mind — usually a child, usually a boy, usually someone whose struggles were visible rather than carefully managed. If you’ve spent years reading those descriptions and quietly deciding they don’t quite fit, even while everything else about your life points the other way, this checklist is for you.
It’s built from seven patterns that show up again and again in late-diagnosed and self-identified women — not as a diagnosis, but as a way of putting specific, often-missed experiences in front of you at once, instead of one vague symptom at a time.
What’s Inside
Seven short sections, each built around a lived pattern rather than a clinical label:
The performed self — the version of you that takes effort to maintain. The sensory world — what genuinely costs you more than it seems to cost other people. Effort versus capacity — trying as hard as you possibly can and still being told to try harder. The criticism that won’t let go. Relationships and the cost of the edit. Intensity and the “too much” feeling. Money, systems, and the things that should be simple but aren’t.
What the Results Will Tell You
Nothing definitive, and nothing you have to accept as final — that’s not what this is for. What it will do is show you, all at once, whether a cluster of things you’ve quietly lived with for years turn out to be connected. Most women who recognise themselves here don’t recognise every line, and that’s normal, not a sign it doesn’t apply.
If a handful of these land, that’s worth paying attention to. If most of them do, that’s worth an actual conversation — not just a private note to yourself. Either way, you’ll walk away with language for patterns that may have never had an accurate name before, whether or not you ever pursue a formal diagnosis.
How to Get It
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